If Moose took the Kolbe A Index

I have a five month old puppy.  His name is Moose and he is a Shorkie, which is a fancy way of saying a combination Shihtzu/Yorkie.  This has been the summer of Moose.

He has mostly learned potty training regimen and has even created a convenient warning signal in the event there is going to be some action.  He starts hysterically digging on his pee pee pad. We are continuing to learn more and more about each other.  So anyway, since I have spent so much time with Moose, I started wondering what his Kolbe profile would be like.

Yes, I know he can’t answer the 36 questions in 20 minutes, but I think I may be able to get some insights about him just by being with him 24×7.

  • Moderate Fact Finder (4-6)– Moose is constantly gathering information — yes, its sensory information, but he is still gathering information when he is scratching, digging, staring, running, jumping, pouncing, retrieving etc.  There is so much for him to learn:  what is a duck/bird/squirrel/etc., most dogs are nice or at least tolerant of a little puppy joy, cats are mysterious and scary, car rides can give you an upset tummy, water is great to drink but not so much fun to bathe in.  He has yet to figure out why duckie, cow and fuzzy bone squeak, but I am sure he will get that soon.
  • Resistent Follow Thru (1-3) — Moose is not a good organizer.  He leaves his toys strewn about the house and never knows where they are.  He is still figuring out the breakfast/dinner routine, but he’s always game for a spur-of-the-moment cookie.  He is trainable as long as there is food available.   He can rollover, sit, stay and rollover again.  We are working on expanding his list of tricks, but it will take some more structured training time.
  • Insistent Quickstart (7-10):  As a puppy, he is all about taking action, lots of action, the faster the better.  Moose embraces risk.  He has jumped off the back of the couch several times, run into numerous walls and pounced on many 80 lb. dogs.  So far its working or him.  Take action first, think second, if at all.  Keep trying until you get what you want or need to take a nap.
  • Insistent Implementor (7-10):  The love of tactile objects may be Moose’s strongest instinct.  Any kind of chewie works for him.  The fluffy ones such as duckie, cow and fluffy bone are perfect to carry proudly in your mouth and to show off to to the world.  This also goes for any random– stick piece of paper or cigarette-butt found on the sidewalk.  Its all about what is in the mouth and the strut.

Yes, I am a “Kolbe-aholic”.  It has changed my life and my coaching practice.  Truly understanding your Kolbe numbers can open doors and provide you with a better understanding of why you do (or don’t do) certain things.  The second part of my practice helps people come to terms with how they feel about these natural proclivities.

What are your numbers?

Why are we so mean to ourselves?

My daughter shared this website with me and it has to be shared and re-shared and then shared again.

I keep running into clients and friends and people I have never met before and will never meet again, who are so cruel to themselves. The self-criticism is constant and brutal.

They hate their hair.

They hate their thighs.

Someone even told me that they wished they had better toenails.

I am not making this up.

I have said it over and over and over and over again. Research estimates that we have between 50,000 and 75,000 thoughts per day and over two-thirds of those thoughts are negative or repetitive. We never give ourselves a break.

Now I am not saying that it’s all our faults, believe me we all know how the world is wallpapered with our own inadequacy vs. what the media portrays. But this is just insane. It has to stop.

My latest story, I just joined a local gym. The t-shirts for women are miniscule. A large is really more like a small and a small might fit a 6 year old. I am not exaggerating. The message they are conveying is very clear. This gym wants to attract thin women. Conversely, the men’s t-shirts are regularly sized. What’s with that? So men can be a variety of sizes and women can’t. Man does that bug me!

Enough already.


Look in the mirror and realize how beautiful you are. Because you know what, this is what the world has offered you. Make the best of it and rejoice in who you are.

Just a little Swinging on Sunday

So, Jenny and I went to the Park Avenue Armory yesterday and went swinging.  We read about it in the New York Times.

I highly recommend it.

Not only because its been a very long time since I did any serious swinging, but there is something incredibly cool about swinging in the middle of Manhattan.

It’s an exhibit by Anne Hamilton and is open through the first week of January.  The official description includes the following….

Visual artist Ann Hamilton combines the ephemeral presence of time with the material tactility for which she is best known to create a new large-scale installation for the Wade Thompson Drill Hall. Commissioned by the Armory, the event of a thread references the building’s architecture, as well as the individual encounters and congregational gatherings that have animated its rich social history. A multisensory affair, the work draws together readings, sound, and live events within a field of swings that together invite visitors to connect to the action of each other and the work itself, illuminating the experience of the singular and collective body.

The unofficial description includes walking into an enormous room divided by a is a diaphonous white, silk curtain.  On each side of the curtain are about 15 double wide swings, lit from above by spotlights.  When you’re lucky enough to find a free swing, you jump on and realize that as you swing, an intricate network of ropes moves the curtain up and down and around based on how you and the other 60 swings are moving.

Then there are the people who are lying directly below the curtain.


So, of course, we had to try that.  Totally cool.

It’s a great way to get away from the crowds in midtown and have fun!


Pillow Talk

Okay, welcome to one of our ongoing marital conversations.

Pillows  Pillows  Pillows  Pillows


We have a bazillion pillows on our bed, much to the consternation of my husband.

“There are too many.”

“This one is too big.”

“The one is too small.”

“Why does anyone need so many of these  #*^*  pillows.”

Well, as you may or may not know, there are very good reasons for all of these pillows.

First of all, there is the need for cold pillows.

Once upon a time, my beloved brother introduced me to the statement,

“as cool as the other side of the pillow”

That’s it!  

I need a cool pillow, and if it’s not cool enough, I need to flip it over or find an alternative through a variety of fresh choices.

And now, that I am in the prime of my life and enjoying those wonderful flashes of warmth at 3:00am, cool pillows are even more critical.

And, apparently I am not the only one.  There is a pillow out there that markets itself as a cooling pillow.   Maybe I should add that to my Christmas list.  But then again, that would require yet another pillow addition to the pile already taking over our bed.  I’m not sure the Husband could take it.

Then there is the size issue.

Sometimes you need a big one to prop yourself up.

Other times, you need one that works when you’re on your side.

It’s also nice to have one of the king-sized ones, in the event you want to share your pillow.

Then there are the little teeny pillows which fit in the nooks and crannies, or if you’re feeling like a pillow, but not too much of a pillow.

Don’t forget the hard/squishee issue

Sometimes you want to be able to squish it up into a ball or punch it into the perfect shape.  Other times, it’s all about support and firmness.  You never know what you’re looking for until you lie down and want to fall asleep.  At least I don’t.

And then there is the sore back/neck alternative

We also have the tempurpedic pillows designed to let your head get cradled in such a way that your spine and neck stay aligned throughout the night.  This is great if you don’t move.  

I move.  

Right now they are at the bottom of the pillow pile simply because they are so heavy and don’t react well to the cold pillow test.  But they are there just in case one of us twists this way when our spine wants to twist that way.

So now I have outed myself as a persnickity pillow person.


Am I the only one?

“Normal Can Never Be Amazing”

So I have been spending a lot of time on branding, both personal and business, working with clients on how they can present themselves authentically.
So naturally my mind went the way of Mini Coopers.

Maybe because I think they do a fabulous job marketing themselves.


Maybe it’s because they celebrate the individual.

the country,

the bling,

Maybe it’s simply because I want one I can drive around that screams who I am.

So my question for you is this….

If you had a Mini Cooper, what would it look like?  And how would you feel driving around town wearing yourself on your sleeve for all to see?

Would you go for tasteful?



So what would your mini cooper look like?

I want to know…..

72 inches of really beautiful beads!

72 inches of beautiful beads with a sterling silver clasp
Amy's beaded bracelet/necklace
This is a reposting of a previous post. Amy went into the hospital and couldn’t make the bracelets. She is back and ready to make them if you are still interested.

This weekend at MBI was amazing, filled with so many Woo Woo moments that I am planning on writing them all down, but one in particular is really standing out.

I met Joda during one of the early sessions.  She was raving about a beaded bracelet I had wrapped around my wrist and wanted to know where I got it.

I told her about my jewelry designing friend Amy, who has been battling MS for the past nine years, facing nasty treatments once each month that wipe her out completely.  Recently her doctor recommended some additional DNA tests which may change the way they treat her disease to a much less debilitating approach.  There is no guarantee, but there is hope.  Naturally the cost is over $10,000.   Her doctor is now helping with some creative funding sources,  her parents are digging into their tapped-out bank accounts and Amy is trying to raise the remaining balance which is about $3500.

So now we go back to Phoenix.  Joda and I  exchanged cards and I promised to get back to her regarding the cost of the bracelet.  The next day we meet again, I tell her the cost and she pulls out her money as I unwrap the bracelet from my wrist.  Done deal.

Well maybe not….

That night I got to thinking that maybe there was an opportunity to help Amy in a bigger way.  Maybe I could sell some of these amazing bracelets.

So yes, you guessed it, the next morning I run into Joda, who tells me that a number of her coaching friends love the bracelet and want to buy it.  And then, of course, I burble that I had the exact same thought.

So here is a picture of the bracelet.  It is 72 inches long and can be wrapped around your wrist as many times as you can, looped around your neck or just draped  for a looser look.  The cost is $70 plus $5 for shipping.

If anyone is interested, please email me at carol@carolcheswickwilson.com.  I will invoice you through PayPal and get it out to you within a week.

I am sending this out to such a great universe.

Thank you for everything.





Stranded in Alaska

Last night, we had a very invigorating phone call that highlighted the differences between a Fact Finder, a Follow Thru, a Quick Start and an Implementor.  Needless to say, the call went far better than even I could imagine.

Three MBI coaches were asked to do some advanced homework and tell us during the call, how they would react to the following situation…

You are on a deserted strip of road in Alaska. It’s beautiful. You are surrounded by forests of fir trees and towering snow-covered peaks. Your car hums along the road, hugging the twists and turns. Your favorite music is on the radio/ipod and you are feeling completely relaxed. You are by yourself. Your family/friends, etc. decided to go salmon fishing for the weekend. You opted for some time to yourself.

There is clearly no one for miles. You are on your own schedule. There is no pressure — no one is waiting for you at your destination. When you get there, you get there. This is what freedom feels like.

All of a sudden, the car coughs and you slowly lose momentum and then glide to a stop. You glide to the side of the road and park on the median. Your car is showing no signs of life. You reach for your phone to call for help and realize that you have absolutely no signal.

What do you do?
How do you feel?
Say more!

Listen to the call here!
We had a surprise guest at the end and all learned a little bit more about ourselves and others.


Natural Advantage


I have been asked to talk a little bit about Kolbe’s 17 “Natural Advantage” descriptors.

Natural Advantages were developed by  Kathy Kolbe as a way to help describe the combination of strengths identified in your Kolbe A index results.

As you may  have heard me say, you are so much more than your highest number.  Each individual Kolbe score describes your prefered mode of striving. The two highest numbers of a Kolbe A index (as long as they are 7 or over) are used to determine your Natural Advantage.   If there is only one score over 7, that single number is used.

As Kathy Kolbe states in her book, The Conative Connection, “These descriptions, though useful, are stereotypes, because nobody is all of one thing.  There is truly no such thing as “can’t” — but there are combinations of talent that make people better suited to one career than another…..The particular combination of strengths in your Kolbe A Index is your personal leverage for getting things done….Natural Advantages aren’t meant to be job titles, rather frames of mind or methods of operation” on how you would approach a particular job with no other constraints, but your instincts.

The 17 Natural Advantages are…

Fact Finder                                Researcher
Fact Finder/Follow Thru      Strategic Planner
Fact Finder/Quick Start        Manager
Fact Finder/Implementor     Technologist

Follow Thru                              Designer
Follow Thru/Fact Finder      Systems Analyst
Follow Thru/Quick Start       Program Developer
Follow Thru/Implementor    Manufacturer

Quick Start                                 Innovator
Quick Start/Fact Finder         Entrepreneur
Quick Start/Follow Thru       Theorist
Quick Start/Implementor      Pioneer

          Implementor                             Demonstrator
Implementor/Fact Finder     Investigator
Implementor/Follow Thru   Quality Controller
Implementor/Quick Start      Adventurer

Facilitator                                   Mediator

I will be addressing these Natural Advantages in upcoming calls.