Why are we so mean to ourselves?

My daughter shared this website with me and it has to be shared and re-shared and then shared again.

I keep running into clients and friends and people I have never met before and will never meet again, who are so cruel to themselves. The self-criticism is constant and brutal.

They hate their hair.

They hate their thighs.

Someone even told me that they wished they had better toenails.

I am not making this up.

I have said it over and over and over and over again. Research estimates that we have between 50,000 and 75,000 thoughts per day and over two-thirds of those thoughts are negative or repetitive. We never give ourselves a break.

Now I am not saying that it’s all our faults, believe me we all know how the world is wallpapered with our own inadequacy vs. what the media portrays. But this is just insane. It has to stop.

My latest story, I just joined a local gym. The t-shirts for women are miniscule. A large is really more like a small and a small might fit a 6 year old. I am not exaggerating. The message they are conveying is very clear. This gym wants to attract thin women. Conversely, the men’s t-shirts are regularly sized. What’s with that? So men can be a variety of sizes and women can’t. Man does that bug me!

Enough already.


Look in the mirror and realize how beautiful you are. Because you know what, this is what the world has offered you. Make the best of it and rejoice in who you are.

“Normal Can Never Be Amazing”

So I have been spending a lot of time on branding, both personal and business, working with clients on how they can present themselves authentically.
So naturally my mind went the way of Mini Coopers.

Maybe because I think they do a fabulous job marketing themselves.


Maybe it’s because they celebrate the individual.

the country,

the bling,

Maybe it’s simply because I want one I can drive around that screams who I am.

So my question for you is this….

If you had a Mini Cooper, what would it look like?  And how would you feel driving around town wearing yourself on your sleeve for all to see?

Would you go for tasteful?



So what would your mini cooper look like?

I want to know…..

Listen to the call: Kolbe… You’re Not Just Your Highest Number!

Please listen to a call I held with Martha Beck coaches in July called:

Kolbe… You’re Not Just Your Highest Number!

During this call, I spoke with two insistent Fact Finders.  My next call on September 20th, will focus on Quickstarts.

Join the call….

20th September 2011 10:00AM PST, 1:00 EST
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We make decisions every day that affect our journey, our bigger picture, our lives. We sacrifice our sense of stillness and peace for the frenetic activity of a life filled with circular activities and endless “to do” lists.

In many ways, we live our lives like squirrels….

Squirrels appear to live in a particular frenzy of indecision, especially if they are trying to cross the road in front of your car.

Yes….No….  Go Back…..  Go Forward…..  Watch Out…..  Wait….

Hurry up…..Run for the hills…..

Their antics are almost comical except it involves their very existence.  Their little tiny brains are making little tiny split decisions that involve their own little tiny mortality.

Now I am certainly not saying that we have little tiny brains and scamper crazily through life, but sometimes it feels that way.

We scurry too much and put too much focus on our “to do” lists – errands, kids, jobs, partners, homes, storing nuts for the winter.  What is remarkable is how rarely we put ourselves first on that list, if we are on the list at all.

Yet, despite all of this activity, something is still not quite right. There is an ache inside and you’re not sure what that’s all about, but you keep doing your stuff, checking off that list, scurrying from tree to tree.

Until one day, you realize that your life is short and that funny feeling inside isn’t going away no matter how much you try to ignore it.

I can help….

Working one-on-one, we refocus your energy on you.

You will gain tools that help you see the bigger picture and learn what the funky feeling inside is all about.  Together, we work to retwinklize your life, so you can stop scurrying and start living your life with joy and meaning.