Kolbe Call — Know your profile and how it affects your business!

Please listen to a call I held with a number of Martha Beck coaches in November, 2011 called:

Your KOLBE Profile:  Learning how to better Understand your Clients and Your Practice.

This call was with two fabulous volunteers who discussed how their Kolbe profile affects how they conduct their business and relate to their clients.

Listen in!

In learning more about your individual Kolbe profile, you can become more self aware while becoming a better coach!

Contact me for an individual Kolbe Consultation!

Are you an Impostor?

I will admit it.

I spent years trying really hard to be something I wasn’t.

I created spreadsheets, analyzed numbers, discussed minutia — doing what I thought I needed to do to be taken seriously in the business world.

I was miserable.

I was an Impostor.

Then I figured it out.

I took the Kolbe ATM Index and learned my numbers.

I am a Quick Start who pretended to be a Fact Finder.

I am a Quick Start!

I like new and fresh.

I love to brainstorm.

I like to challenge the status quo.

I wait until the last minute.

I am high energy.

I trust my gut.

I am a Quick Start.

I was an Impostor.

Now I am not.

I am a Quick Start.


Come join me.  Sign up for my mailing list and join other Quick Starts who are trying to figure out where they fit in the world!


Listen to the call: Kolbe… You’re Not Just Your Highest Number!

Please listen to a call I held with Martha Beck coaches in July called:

Kolbe… You’re Not Just Your Highest Number!

During this call, I spoke with two insistent Fact Finders.  My next call on September 20th, will focus on Quickstarts.

Join the call….

20th September 2011 10:00AM PST, 1:00 EST
Tele-Course Call in Number Info: (702) 589-8300 Access Code: 3875782#


In learning more about your individual Kolbe profile, you can become more self aware while becoming a better coach!


Life Coaching Day to Day
Beware of toxic people

There are people in the world who should wear this sign. Lucky me! I met one of them this morning.

Her aura was toxic which I know sounds so hokey, but I knew as soon as I looked in her eyes that she was trouble.

I also allowed myself to get sucked into her orbit.

I should know better.

The Story….

I need a medical information form completed before the weekend. Charlie gave it to me today, Tuesday, and he needs it by Saturday. My son is a wrestler and has made it into the New England tournament. This is a very big deal in his world.  As a wrestler he needs to prove that he is in good health – not infected with ring worm or any other disease that can be spread through close body contact.

I know. I know. TMI

So I drive over to the pediatrician’s office to drop off the form at 8AM. The conversation between myself and two nurses behind the counter goes something like this…..

Do we do these forms?

Should we charge her $20 to complete this?

I have never seen this type of form before.

You need to submit these forms at least two weeks in advance.

We have to look up this information in our files.

We can complete the form and mail it back to you.

When I explain that this matter requires some urgency and that I am willing to drive back and pick up the form when its ready. I get “the look”. You all know what that look is….

It’s the look that says you are an asshole.

It’s the look that says you are bothering me.

It’s the look that says you have unreal expectations.

It’s the look that says, you are not on my priority list.

I write my name and phone number on the proffered envelope, comment that it is clear that I have annoyed them, and ask them to call me when the form is ready. As I am stomping out, I offer to give them $20 for their trouble.

The Lesson

Don’t let yourself get sucked into their stuff.

I sunk to their level.

I got back into the car snarling at myself with a litany of things I should have said to them to put them in their place.

Then I took a breath.

This is not good, especially since I pride myself on being somewhat tuned into my feelings and those of others.

This is their stuff.

Not mine.

Let them keep it.

Bring It On

So the headlines are screaming it again.

More snow.

5-9 inches?

6-12 inches?

Is it an advisory or a warning?

Is it going inland or staying on the coast?

Will we have sleet or snow or freezing rain or ice pellets?

What about coastal flooding….

Click here for our latest insane weather report

You know what, I have finally come to conclusion, with the help of a very wise woman — there is absolutely nothing we can do but…

Bring it on!

So we are going to have another opportunity to get rosy cheeks and chilled fingers as we shovel the driveway and the front walk.

We will shovel a path for the dogs in the backyard so that they can get out and do their business.

We will have yet another snow day off from school, which miraculously the kids are actually finding somewhat tedious.

We will be able to sit by the fire, eat homemade brownies and play a hugely competitive tournament of fast solitaire.

We will eat leftovers and some more leftovers.

The dogs will roam the house.  Jake will steal the dishtowel off the kitchen counter, Snoopy will follow me everywhere including into the potty and Lucy will sit looking out the window at the birds on the feeder.

We will all go a little stir crazy as we hibernate, awaiting our opportunity to get set free, one more time.

Too much reality? My rant….

I spend much of my time working with clients about focusing on their own reality, questioning negative thoughts, becoming their own best selves. But is it possible to have too much reality?

I understand that it’s important to live out loud and to speak your own truth authentically and honestly, but where do we draw the line. When is enough, enough?

Let’s look at toilet paper commercials …

Charmin features a bear who has tufts of TP adhering to his fur behind, with the claim that it “leaves fewer pieces behind”. I can’t get the image out of my mind of that little bear dancing around with toilet paper fluffed on his bottom. Too much information!

Then there is the more down to earth Quilted Northern commercial about the importance of having paper that “gets you clean while helping to keep your hands clean”. Ew. Ew. Ew. Did I say TMI?

Personally, I think its time for them to get some perspective.

Clearly the marketing people are spending way too much time brainstorming toilet paper features and benefits, without thinking of the bigger picture.

At least Scott paper has figured out we all want to be greener and has eliminated the inner tube.

I really didn’t intend this piece to become a discussion on toilet paper, but it does serve to be a metaphor for clear thinking and cleaner living.

We are spending too much time talking about nonsense and too little talking about what really matters – making our world a better place to live and ourselves happier and at peace.

End of rant.